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Therapy for People Pleasing in Austin, Texas & Colorado

You’re tired of bending over backwards just to keep the peace.

You’ve spent years being the version of you everyone else needed. Let’s find the verson you need.

You’ve spent years being the version of you everyone else needed - kind, helpful, accommodating, easy to love. But that version came at the cost of your needs, your voice, and your peace.

You can read a room in seconds, anticipate what people want before they ask, and smooth things over like a pro. But later? You’re spiraling about whether you said the wrong thing. Whether they’re mad. Whether you’re “too much.”

You say yes when you want to say no. You swallow your needs to avoid disappointing people. You bend until you break because guilt shows up the second you try to choose yourself.

This isn’t just a habit. It’s a survival strategy. It’s worked for you in the past but not you’re burned out and tired as hell. And you don’t have to live like this forever.

What People-Pleasing Looks Like

Being “nice” isn’t the problem. It’s when being nice comes at the cost of your own needs, peace, and identity. People-pleasing often looks like:

Constantly replaying convos, worried you upset someone
Feeling guilty for setting even the smallest boundary
Saying yes when you want to say no and resenting it later
Shrinking your needs, opinions, or emotions to avoid conflict
Worrying more about how others feel than how you feel
Feeling responsible for everyone else’s reactions
Over-apologizing or walking on eggshells
Losing track of who you are outside of helping others

And even when you recognize the pattern, it’s hard to stop. Because deep down, part of you believes: if I don’t keep everyone happy, I’m not lovable or safe..

I’m here for you.

You’re allowed to slow down and speak up for what you need.

You weren’t meant to live your life constantly managing everyone else’s emotions. In therapy, we’ll gently explore the stories that taught you to put yourself last and avoid conflict at all costs. You’ll learn how to set boundaries without guilt, say no without spiraling, and reconnect with the version of you that isn’t just here to make everyone else comfortable.

You don’t have to shrink to belong. You just have to be willing to choose yourself and we’ll take it from there.

Feel familiar?

Volunteering even when you don’t have time

Trying to be easygoing and low-maintenance

Overthinking every interaction

Feeling guilty for putting yourself first

Here’s what we’ll do together

No more bending over backwards to keep everyone else happy. Therapy helps you find your voice, stop self-abandoning, and finally let go of who you think you have to be to be loved.

Together we’ll look at the beliefs and patterns that have been driving your people-pleasing—like the fear of disappointing others, the urge to keep the peace at all costs, or the belief that your needs come second (or last). We’ll explore where those patterns came from, how they’ve helped you feel safe or accepted, and why they’re no longer sustainable. You’ll learn to speak up without spiraling, set boundaries that actually stick, and stop abandoning yourself to avoid conflict..

If you’re carrying deeper wounds from earlier experience like emotional neglect, being the “easy” or self-sufficient one, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, EMDR or talk therapy can help. We’ll work with your nervous system to shift those old beliefs and help you feel safe taking up space, even when it’s uncomfortable. This isn’t just about managing burnout, it’s about finally belonging to yourself..

What we’ll work on

Imagine a life where you…

Set boundaries and actually feel good about it
Say no without immediately justifying or apologizing
Show up in relationships without shrinking, editing, or over-functioning
Stop walking on eggshells and start speaking up without guilt
Trust that disappointing someone doesn’t make you a bad person
Let go of “being the nice one” and start being the real you
Belong to yourself instead of bending to keep the peace

you don’t have to earn rest.

You don’t have to keep everyone happy. You just have to start showing up for you.

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Questions?

FAQs

If you're always overthinking, afraid to disappoint others, or feel like you're only valuable when you're doing or achieving, therapy can help. These patterns are exhausting, and they’re often rooted in deeper emotional wounds that can be healed.
I use EMDR, parts work, and somatic strategies to get to the root of perfectionism and people-pleasing. This isn’t about pushing through, it’s about creating real, lasting shifts in how you see yourself and your worth.
Sometimes. These patterns often start early, and understanding where they came from can be powerful. But we’ll go at your pace, and you’ll always have tools to help you feel grounded and safe.
That’s common for people-pleasers. Therapy gives you space to explore what you want and need, without judgment. You get to reconnect with the real you.