In-person in Austin, Texas and virtual across TeXas and Colorado
Therapy for Perfectionism & People Pleasing in Austin, Texas & Colorado
You’re tired of bending over backwards just to keep the peace.
You’ve spent years being the version of you everyone else needed. Let’s find the verson you need.
.You know how to read a room. You’re three steps ahead of what everyone needs, you’re the “nice one,” the helper, the one who makes shit happen. And somehow, you’re still spiraling about whether you were too much, not enough, or just plain annoying.
You’re the one who shows up, handles it all, and makes it look effortless. You say yes when your whole body’s screaming no…then feel guilty for even having needs in the first place. You’re so worried about disappointing others that you’ll risk your own burnout just to keep the peace.
You obsess over getting it just right at work, in relationships, in your never-ending to-do lists, yet you still feel like you’re falling short. People call you reliable, and you are, but at the expense of abandoning yourself.
What Perfectionism & People-Pleasing Looks Like
It’s not just about having high standards or being “nice.” These patterns show up in sneaky, exhausting ways, especially when they’ve been part of your identity for years. You might notice:
Constantly replaying convos in your head, worried you said the wrong thing
Feeling guilty for setting boundaries (or even just thinking about it)
Saying yes when you’re already at capacity then resenting it
Tying your worth to how productive, helpful, or put-together you are
Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or reactions
Struggling to ask for help, rest, or be a little chaotic/messy
Burning out from trying to be everything to everyone
Secretly feeling like a failure…even when you're doing great on paper
And even when you know these habits are hurting you, it feels really hard to stop. Because deep down, a part of you still believes: if I’m not doing enough, I’m not enough.
I’m here for you.
You’re allowed to slow down and speak up for what you need.
You weren’t meant to live your life on everyone else’s terms. In therapy, we’ll gently unravel the beliefs that have kept you stuck in overfunctioning, overachieving, and overriding your own needs. You’ll learn to set boundaries that don’t come with a side of guilt, quiet that critical inner voice, and start trusting that you’re allowed to take up space…messy, honest, real space.
You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to prove your worth. You just have to be willing to show up - just as you are - and we’ll take it from there.
Feel familiar?
Constantly raising the bar
Volunteering even when you don’t have time
Trying to be easygoing and low-maintenance
Panicking over a typo
Here’s what we’ll do together
No more chasing worth. Therapy helps you quiet the inner critic and finally shed the idea of who you think you should be.
Together we’ll look at the beliefs and patterns that have been driving your perfectionism and people-pleasing, like the pressure to always be “on,” the fear of disappointing others, or the idea that your worth depends on how much you do for everyone else. We’ll explore where those patterns came from, how they’ve protected you, and why they’re not serving you anymore. You’ll start learning how to reconnect with your needs, set boundaries that don’t leave you spiraling, and actually rest without feeling like you’ve failed.
If you’re carrying deeper wounds from earlier experiences like criticism, emotional neglect, or needing to be the “easy” one. EMDR or talk therapy can help you process those memories on a body-based level. We’ll work with your nervous system to shift those old beliefs and help you feel safer taking up space. This isn’t just about managing stress, t’s about finally feeling like you without all the pressure to perform.
IWhat we’ll work on
Imagine a life where you…
Set boundaries and actually feel good about it
Stop overthinking every interaction and trust that you’re not “too much”
Rest without feeling like you have to earn it
Feel confident saying no, even if it disappoints someone
Show up in relationships without editing or shrinking yourself
Feel grounded in who you are, not just what you do for others
Keep your high standards without tying your worth to them
you’ve done the whole “keep it together” thing
Now you’re craving peace, clarity, a break from the noise.
Questions?
FAQs
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If you're always overthinking, afraid to disappoint others, or feel like you're only valuable when you're doing or achieving, therapy can help. These patterns are exhausting, and they’re often rooted in deeper emotional wounds that can be healed.
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I use EMDR, parts work, and somatic strategies to get to the root of perfectionism and people-pleasing. This isn’t about pushing through, it’s about creating real, lasting shifts in how you see yourself and your worth.
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Totally. Having high standards isn’t the issue, it’s when your sense of worth depends on never messing up, always saying yes, or being “the best.” Therapy helps you keep what works and let go of what’s burning you out.
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Sometimes. These patterns often start early, and understanding where they came from can be powerful. But we’ll go at your pace, and you’ll always have tools to help you feel grounded and safe.
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That’s common for people-pleasers. Therapy gives you space to explore what you want and need, without judgment. You get to reconnect with the real you.
